For Parents, Friends, and Anyone Who Cares

Want your teen to talk to you? The research is clear: They need to feel safe.

It's not about you being a perfect parent. It's about making small, consistent changes in how you respond when they come to you.

Priority #1: Listen. Don't Fix.

Your main job is to be a sounding board, not a problem-solver. Trust that they can find solutions with your support, not your direction.

Ask: "That sounds really tough. What are your thoughts on what to do next?"

Manage Your Own Reaction

Before you respond, take a breath. Your panic, anger, or disappointment will shut the conversation down. Respond with curiosity, not control.

Validate Their Feelings (Even if You Don't Get It)

To them, that breakup or friendship drama is the end of the world. You don't have to agree to show you care.

Phrases like "That sounds so painful," or "I can see why you're so upset" make them feel heard.

Be a Role Model for Imperfection

Talk about a time you made a mistake (an age-appropriate one!). Apologize when you get it wrong. Showing them it's okay to be imperfect makes it safer for them to do the same.

Get Curious About Their World

Instead of viewing their phone as the enemy, ask them to show you the AI they use. A curious, non-judgmental question can open the door to bigger conversations about safety and what they're getting from it.